I became especially aware of these comments last winter when I was sewing the family Christmas pajama pants (6 pair and a sleeper for my granddaughter). As I was sewing that voice was telling me that no one would like them, that I was not doing a good job and that they all looked terribly homemade. Phew it was exhausting getting through the first pair of pants but the good news was that I became acutely aware of the voice.
I think I got so used to hearing the voice that I was not even aware of how much it affected me. Until I became aware of the negative self talk I wasn't able to change it. How can I change something I don't even realize is there! The beauty of awareness is making the change and that means creating new selftalk, self talk that is loving and encouraging. First I talked back to the voice telling it that it couldn't do any better and that I was not going to listen to that critic any more, next I shifted to thinking how much I loved doing the project and how much I enjoyed being creative though sewing. The advantage of shifting that thinking was focusing on the joy of sewing and the anticipated outcome. Plus now I was able to pour lots of love into the project and of course the sewing became so much easier too!
In the last few months I have been challenged with Achilles tendon surgery and of course that has given me a chance to shift the thoughts in my head from "why is this taking you so long to get better?" to "I love how my body heals itself". As long as I kept that negative, inner self-criticism I was miserable and struggled to feel better but once I changed my thinking to loving myself for healing, it became a much easier process.
So now I pay much more attention to those negative thoughts in my head and shift them to a new perspective focusing on the positive. There is greater ease and joy when I am coming from that loving joyful perspective.
Can you relate?