While looking on Pinterest I came across a quote that said. "The way we talk to our children becomes the voice in their head". It made me stop and think about the voice(s) in my head and what they are saying to me. Mind you these are not the crazy, schizophrenic voices they are those inner voices that I have chosen to think about over and over. Usually these thoughts are a result of one or many negative comments that are said to me, you know the ones that we remember and forget all those wonderful positive comments that are made. The things that go on in my head often reinforce my "not good enough" issue that I am challenged with and range from criticizing my craft/sewing projects to telling me I don't write well to being lazy and not working hard enough.
I became especially aware of these comments last winter when I was sewing the family Christmas pajama pants (6 pair and a sleeper for my granddaughter). As I was sewing that voice was telling me that no one would like them, that I was not doing a good job and that they all looked terribly homemade. Phew it was exhausting getting through the first pair of pants but the good news was that I became acutely aware of the voice.
I think I got so used to hearing the voice that I was not even aware of how much it affected me. Until I became aware of the negative self talk I wasn't able to change it. How can I change something I don't even realize is there! The beauty of awareness is making the change and that means creating new selftalk, self talk that is loving and encouraging. First I talked back to the voice telling it that it couldn't do any better and that I was not going to listen to that critic any more, next I shifted to thinking how much I loved doing the project and how much I enjoyed being creative though sewing. The advantage of shifting that thinking was focusing on the joy of sewing and the anticipated outcome. Plus now I was able to pour lots of love into the project and of course the sewing became so much easier too!
In the last few months I have been challenged with Achilles tendon surgery and of course that has given me a chance to shift the thoughts in my head from "why is this taking you so long to get better?" to "I love how my body heals itself". As long as I kept that negative, inner self-criticism I was miserable and struggled to feel better but once I changed my thinking to loving myself for healing, it became a much easier process.
So now I pay much more attention to those negative thoughts in my head and shift them to a new perspective focusing on the positive. There is greater ease and joy when I am coming from that loving joyful perspective.
Can you relate?
I became especially aware of these comments last winter when I was sewing the family Christmas pajama pants (6 pair and a sleeper for my granddaughter). As I was sewing that voice was telling me that no one would like them, that I was not doing a good job and that they all looked terribly homemade. Phew it was exhausting getting through the first pair of pants but the good news was that I became acutely aware of the voice.
I think I got so used to hearing the voice that I was not even aware of how much it affected me. Until I became aware of the negative self talk I wasn't able to change it. How can I change something I don't even realize is there! The beauty of awareness is making the change and that means creating new selftalk, self talk that is loving and encouraging. First I talked back to the voice telling it that it couldn't do any better and that I was not going to listen to that critic any more, next I shifted to thinking how much I loved doing the project and how much I enjoyed being creative though sewing. The advantage of shifting that thinking was focusing on the joy of sewing and the anticipated outcome. Plus now I was able to pour lots of love into the project and of course the sewing became so much easier too!
In the last few months I have been challenged with Achilles tendon surgery and of course that has given me a chance to shift the thoughts in my head from "why is this taking you so long to get better?" to "I love how my body heals itself". As long as I kept that negative, inner self-criticism I was miserable and struggled to feel better but once I changed my thinking to loving myself for healing, it became a much easier process.
So now I pay much more attention to those negative thoughts in my head and shift them to a new perspective focusing on the positive. There is greater ease and joy when I am coming from that loving joyful perspective.
Can you relate?
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